Online dating has made a lot of things easier when it comes to meeting your perfect match. However, one thing it hasn’t been able to fix is the pain often associated with rejection when dating. Yes, rejection online can be just as upsetting as someone not turning up at the restaurant or making an excuse to leave the date as quickly as possible. To survive or thrive in the online dating world, you need to know how to deal with this type of rejection.
Don’t Set Yourself Up For Heartbreak
Ultimately, this just means that you shouldn’t be putting all your hopes and dreams on one person. If you’re a hopeless romantic and believe in love at first sight or soul mates, this can be tough. But remember, with online dating, you won’t have even met the person just yet. Don’t put too much pressure on it going well. That doesn’t mean that you have to play the field, but you should have at least one more date on the horizon if a particular meeting doesn’t go well.
Don’t Blame Yourself
Remember, it’s not you, it’s them. One of the worst things you can do after a rejection is start to dissect it. You begin to ask questions like:
● What did I do wrong?
● What did they not like about me?
● What was my mistake?
Forget these questions and certainly don’t dwell on the answers because ultimately it doesn’t matter. Remember, it’s not personal. You just haven’t fit what they want. This doesn’t mean that you did anything wrong at all, but rather it just wasn’t the right match. It could be a whole variety of factors, many of which won’t even be in your control.
Lean On Others
So, you’ve been rejected, but guess what? Everyone has at one point or another? Remember the person you liked who looked like a supermodel and didn’t reply to your first message? At some point, they’ve been ghosted by someone too! The trick is to connect with your friends, family and other people around you because ultimately, we’ve all been there.
Get Back On The Horse
After you fall off a horse, the first thing an instructor will do is tell you to get back on and ride. Sex innuendos there aside, you just need to make sure that you are lining up your next date or messaging someone else. Keep clicking and keep pursuing. Don’t delete your profile and don’t give up. Rejection is an unfortunate part of finding the one or at least, someone who you click with.
The Pain Will Pass
It doesn’t seem like it now, and it can be even worse if the rejection comes at the end of a bad day, week or month. But the pain will fade. Ultimately, people are incredibly resilient, and eventually, you’ll forget. More than likely that will be because you kept meeting new people until you found the right person. You can cry, you can let it hit you a little and then you can move on and move forward.
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